Find out where they splurged and scrimped and whether they stayed within their designated budgets.
By Theodora Malison-Webb
Planning a wedding stirs up feelings of exhilaration for the future. From the tangible items such as dresses and decor, to the emotional hand-written vows, weddings are a monumental day that couples long await, signifying the union of two becoming one.
But some couples find themselves disrupted by hefty sticker shock during the planning process and oftentimes incur more debt than desired. While this has become an upward trend in most modern day weddings, it could soon be a thing of the past as some couples are resisting the urge to spend frivolously.
We spoke to four former brides on their budgeting choices, real costs, why they chose to go over or under, and their advice for future brides-to-be.
*Note that the total cost for each wedding includes other expenses beyond what is listed.
Jessie Holeva and Justin Bostwick
Jessie Holeva and her husband paid for their wedding out of their own pockets, so the two of them went in with a practical $20,000 budget. They knew they wanted to not only stay within a tighter budget, but wanted their venue to provide a level of sentimentality representative of their relationship.
The couple chose Cabrini University, the Radnor-based campus where the two first met. “Cabrini had that old-world feel we were looking for, and had a chapel on campus. The venue itself was so beautiful that we didn’t feel we had much decorating to do.”
Jessie and Justin decided to give themselves a strict timeline as well.
“Since our timeline was as short as it was, we realized we had to be careful of the things we spent [money] on,” Jessie says. “If we would’ve given ourselves a two-year window, we would’ve spent so much more.”
In the end, the couple stuck to their budget, spending around $25,000. When asked how they managed to have what appeared as an extravagant wedding minus the price tag, Jessie says their wedding budgeting success can be attributed to a few factors: smart spending, coupons and choosing the right items to DIY.
“There were details I didn’t care so much about, like the guest book and card box,” Jessie mentions, “so they were last minute decisions I made from Michaels Arts and Crafts and I used a few coupons to save additional money. Other things that helped us were repurposing our flowers from the ceremony to the reception with just a few tweaks.”
Jessie admits she was fortunate to have the help of some friends who work within the industry. In addition, her future mother-in-law gifted hair and makeup and the live entertainment.
Jessie also saved a bundle on her wedding dress. The heavy discount was all thanks to another bride who returned the dress because she had found another.
Aside from her own spending, Jessie remained conscientious of her bridesmaids’ wallets, too, allowing them to purchase dresses of their choice and combining her bachelorette party and bridal shower into the same weekend.
Budgeting advice for future brides: Have an idea of what you want, but be open-minded. Don’t have your heart set on one specific thing, one specific way.
Ceremony: $1,000 donation
Reception fee: $2,875
Kate and Bradley Williams
Actual: A little over $75,000
From the moment Kate said yes, she knew a lavish wedding was absolutely in order for the two of them. A registered nurse at Thomas Jefferson University Hospital in Philadelphia, Kate abides by the simple saying of “work hard, play hard,” which resulted in a 200-person gathering of friends and family at one of Philadelphia’s most iconic wedding venues, The Ballroom at the Ben.
The prestigious venue boasts sparkling chandeliers, architectural intricacies and even a certain familial tribute to Kate’s uncle, who several years prior worked there as a maître d’.
The couple’s wedding ended up maxing out at a little over $75,000, which was slightly more than their initial budget of $70,000.
“We wanted something special and something grand,” Kate says of the venue, adding that the two had no regrets going over their allotted budget. “It was important to us and to our family to make this a special and memorable event. We could’ve stayed within budget and still had a very nice wedding, but at the end of the day we all work really hard and deserved a great day, and that made us feel better about our spending choices.”
What exactly was behind the higher price tag? Besides the venue itself, Kate admits to “those little things you don’t originally think of,” like after parties, flower walls, upgraded linens and videographers.
“We decided about two months before the wedding we wanted to hire a videographer after reading so many articles in favor of them,” Kate says. “We also decided hosting an after party was necessary since our wedding was only running until 10 p.m. Friends and family still tell us that it was one of the best weddings they’d been to.”
The couple decided to eliminate the wedding favors and hotel guest bags.
“I’ve seen wedding favors that look really nice, but we figured it was a couple of hundred dollars that we could use toward other things for the wedding,” says Kate. “The hotel gift bags were also surprisingly expensive, and an additional $15 to deliver per room. We all agreed it didn’t make sense.”
Kate also scored her dream Pronovias Altelier gown for a great deal at La Belle Mariee Bridal, owned by mother-daughter duo Michelle and Gabrielle Frederico. Her husband chose to wear a black tuxedo he already owned and loved for their special day.
Budgeting advice for future brides: “You have to be realistic with what you can afford and how you’re going to afford it. At the same time, don’t settle for anything you don’t want or something that isn’t quite right.”
After Party: $2,500
Save the Dates: $500
Rehearsal Dinner: $5,000
Marie and Brad Swasy
Budget: About $25,000
Marie and Brad were both attending chiropractic school in Florida when they got engaged. On top of preparing for January internships and juggling extensive classwork, the two were also trying to plan their wedding. Marie knew she wanted the wedding to happen before she was officially licensed to practice, so her license could reflect her new name—but the two were faced with minimal options and days available.
“The weekend we got married was the only time either of us could do,” Marie says of their Dec. 17, 2016 wedding at the Hilton Wilmington/Christiana hotel. “We wanted to do a Saturday wedding so extended family could attend as well, but our main issues were finding something that was available the weekend before Christmas, and something that was within close proximity to our church, St. Marks.”
While the couple’s wedding totaled approximately $40,000—more than what they originally hoped—the cost, they say, was well worth it to have minimal planning worries.
The hotel’s all-inclusive package had everything they needed—food, a full-bar, flowers and a cake. The guest list however, wasn’t the only thing the couple kept to a minimum. With only a maid of honor and a best man, Marie says they didn’t have to worry about the expenses associated with a full-fledged bridal party.
“Being in school in Florida when everyone else was in Delaware, it would’ve been so difficult to coordinate things with multiple friends. My friends still went dress shopping with me and came over to get ready the morning of the wedding.”
Marie also mentions the seasonal timing of their wedding ended up saving them financially, too. With the Christmas decor abounding from room to room, Marie says the venue truly didn’t need anything more than a few floral arrangements from an outside florist.
Budgeting advice for future brides: “You have to figure out what you really want to spend money on—everyone’s always worrying about everyone else’s feelings, but it’s really your day.”
Gabriella and Matt Steindl
Budget: Did not have an overall budget
Gabriella and Matt Steindl had a very specific vision for their big day: a quaint gathering of friends and family, in a rustic, bohemian setting with no shortage of botanicals and vibrant foliage. Similarly to her relationship with Matt, Gabriella says they “just knew Terrain was the one.” From there, Gabriella began planning all of the subtle and major nuances that weddings entail. For what originally was intended to be a relatively inexpensive endeavor, the couple was surprised to find that their wedding topped out at a little over $50,000.
“I think going into the planning process, we were going in blindly, and we were also one of the first to get married of our friend group,” Gabriella notes. “Even though this wasn’t something we anticipated, looking back it was well worth it.”
Despite spending more than anticipated, the two made sure to do their research before making certain purchases.
“We originally wanted to hire a videographer, but after looking at prices, we decided against it,” she says. In addition, Gabriella and Matt opted to use Minted, an online marketplace for customizing one-of-a-kind wedding stationery, which saved them a few hundred dollars on invites.
A stroke of good luck also happened to save the couple a large chunk of change. While shopping for a dress, Gabriella stumbled upon a trunk show at Lovely Bride in Philadelphia. There she found a whimsical Watters gown boasting intricate lace detailing for a fraction of the original cost, and less than her original $3,000 allotted budget.
Thanks to Gabriella’s fortunate find, she and Matt were able to allocate money elsewhere to services that truly mattered most to them, such as photography and entertainment.
Their venue selection provided an on-site events coordinator and catering, which prevented the hassle of hiring two more outside vendors.
“Although we spent the bulk of our budget on the venue alone, we were originally looking at our wedding as more of a DIY, but after running the numbers, we would’ve ended up spending the same amount in the end,” Gabriella notes.
Budgeting advice for future brides: Do thorough research and figure out what services will be the most important in making the dreams of your big day a surefire reality.
Venue: $25,000 (catering included at venue)
Vintage Camper Photo Booth: $1,300